Thursday, May 8, 2014
This is one of my favorite pictures of Abby and Sara. Seems like yesterday to me, though it has been 18 years.. time flies. Sara just wanted to hold and play with "her" baby. Abby had other ideas. She was just so fussy all the time she usually only tolerated me, often she wanted nothing to do with even Derek or Sara. Luckily, after a few years she and Sara were truly the best friends siblings should be.
Abby was a delightfully "mushy and squishy" baby. Of course we soon realized that when a baby is that "mushy" and not able to hold their head up, there are issues. Nursing was beyond a nightmare. For months she would nurse up to 10-12 times a night, never more then a tiny snack at a time. It was frustrating for both of us. Sara was nearly 11 weeks preterm, and the one thing you learn with a preemie is no matter what, they MUST eat and gain weight. I think that is what kept me sane while functioning on no sleep, first priority- eat. She certainly never failed to thrive though. Which I think made it more difficult to figure out what was wrong with her. By age 3 she had started to get stronger. By age 6 we thought for sure the worst was over.
Ages 6-9 were her best. This is a first grade picture. She had a wonderful summer outside in our pool and though she fatigued easily, she managed very well in school as long as she could come home and rest. She struggled with her "allergies" and was constantly catching every cold but she really was on target. The remaining issues she struggled with we were certain she would finish outgrowing at puberty. We were shocked when she got so sick. When I visualize Abby as healthy in my head, this is the image I hold on to.. we will get there again.